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If you are reading this anywhere near the holidays, first of all, congratulations. You survived another year of “Why is everyone acting like this?” and “How did this suddenly become my responsibility?”
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Second, let us talk about something that quietly wrecks therapists, business owners, parents, and humans in general every single December.
Everything feels like an emergency.
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This week on the Tripping Off Podcast, we found ourselves laughing, swearing a little, and having one of those conversations that hits way closer to home than expected. It came out of our work with our business coach, Glenn Finch, and his team at Atticus Advantage. Glenn teaches law firm owners how to stop running their lives like a four alarm fire, and honestly, therapists might need this lesson even more than lawyers
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So let us pull this into your world as a clinician.
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The Most Exhausting Mental Task
You Do Every Day
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Glenn made a statement that stopped us in our tracks.
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Prioritization is the most mentally taxing task a human being can do.
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Not trauma processing.
Not holding space.
Not even documentation, although that is a close second
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It is deciding what actually matters right now.
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Most of us try to do that decision making at the worst possible time. Late in the day. When we are emotionally fried. When our nervous system has already been hit with client trauma, holiday stress, family expectations, and about 400 unread emails.
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So Glenn gave us a deceptively simple framework.
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Emergencies, Urgencies, Weekly tasks
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And before your nervous system reacts, no, this is not about dismissing emotions. This is about protecting your body and brain so you can keep doing this work without burning out.
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What Actually Is An Emergency?
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An emergency is very specific.
Physical bodily harm or financial ruin that will happen within the next 24 hours.
Loss of life.
Loss of limb.
The business genuinely collapsing tomorrow if this is not handled.
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Not “this is uncomfortable.”
Not “someone is upset.”
Not “this email feels intense.”
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When Glenn said this, both of us had the same reaction you are probably having right now.
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“Okay, but that rules out like 90 percent of my day.”
Yes. Exactly.
And that realization alone is often enough to make people defensive. Because if you grew up unheard, dismissed, or emotionally neglected, your nervous system learned something very important.
If it is not an emergency, nobody listens.
So the intensity has to go up.
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Why Everything Starts Feeling Urgent
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When someone grows up in an environment where their needs were minimized, ignored, or brushed off, their nervous system adapts. It escalates. Language becomes stronger. Emotions become bigger. Everything feels like it has to be “right now” or it will never be addressed.
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This is not manipulation.
This is survival learning.
We see this in clients constantly. We see it in ourselves. We see it in families around the holidays.
And here is the part we want you to really hear.
Something can feel like an emergency in the body without actually being an emergency in reality.
Both things can be true at the same time.
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An urgency is when physical harm or financial harm could realistically happen in the next 48 hours to a week.
Not today.
But soon enough that it should not be ignored.
This is where a lot of clinical judgment lives.
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And this is also where many therapists with ADHD, anxiety, or trauma histories struggle. Because if it is not directly in front of you, your brain may not register it correctly. Or everything registers at the same intensity level.
Neither means you are bad at your job.
It means your nervous system has patterns too.
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And Then There Are Weekly Tasks
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This is where the collective groan usually happens.
Weekly tasks are everything else.
Important things.
Meaningful things.
Things that must get done.
But not emergencies.
Most of life actually lives here.
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When everything gets labeled as urgent or catastrophic, your body never comes down. You never sleep deeply. Anxiety becomes the baseline. And eventually, burnout feels inevitable.
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We talked about this in the podcast in very human ways. Stories about parents who thrive on crisis. ADHD brains that only focus under adrenaline. Even a very real story about a literal medical injury being minimized while a softball game took priority.
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Funny in hindsight. Not funny in the nervous system.
The body remembers what it learned.
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What This Means For You As A Clinician
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Here is the clinical gold in all of this.
When a client treats everything as an emergency, your job is not to dismiss it.
Your job is to help them scale it.
Scaling is not invalidation.
Scaling is regulation.
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And the same applies to you.
If you do not learn to internally sort emergencies, urgencies, and weekly tasks, your nervous system will live in constant fight or flight. No amount of insight oriented therapy fixes that without behavioral and physiological change.
One of the boundaries Zac shared in the episode was simple and powerful.
If something requires an immediate answer within 24 hours, the answer is no.
Not because it does not matter.
But because his nervous system matters too.
Boundaries are not walls.
They are triage systems.
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The holidays pour gasoline on all of this.
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Family dynamics.
Unresolved trauma.
Financial pressure.
Social expectations.
And an internet that profits off panic and fake urgency.
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We even joked about AI generated videos claiming absurd things are “extremely dangerous” just to hijack attention. The commodity of thinking is in high demand right now.
Without accurate information and proper scaling, misinformation fuels emotional exhaustion. For clients. For therapists. For everyone.
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A Gentle Challenge This Week
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You do not need to do this perfectly.
Just practice.
Start your day with prioritization before the emails and texts hijack your nervous system.
Ask yourself:
Is this an emergency?
Is this an urgency?
Or is this a weekly task that can be handled without my body acting like someone is dying?
Take a breath.
Calm your nervous system.
Make a plan.
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Not everything needs to be fought or fled from.
In fact, very few things do.
If you can help your clients learn this skill while practicing it yourself, you are not just improving outcomes. You are extending your career.
And during the holidays especially, that might be one of the most compassionate things you can do.
Happy holidays, whatever you celebrate.
If the pie is late, it is not an emergency.
It might even create space for a better conversation.
And if you need us, we are here.
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